The “Yeah, But” Guy (a letter to my fellow dudes, gents, and other assorted man-people)

I need to talk to my fellow dudes, gents, and other assorted man-people for a moment:

Hello, my fellow dudes, gents, and other assorted man-people. Allow me to humbly remind you not to be The “Yeah, But” Guy.

The “Yeah, But” Guy doesn’t listen to those who need to be heard.

The “Yeah, But” Guy internalizes allegations toward others.

The “Yeah, But” Guy fears reflecting on his own past actions might turn up some uncomfortable truths.

The “Yeah, But” Guy dismisses allegations too quickly, then refuses to change his mind because admitting having been wrong is very difficult.

The “Yeah, But” Guy is in a permanent defensive position.

The “Yeah, But” Guy worries someone he liked maybe wasn’t worth liking, and The “Yeah, But” Guy doesn’t like to consider such complications.

The “Yeah, But” Guy is immediately certain any allegation against someone he supports must be a conspiracy.

My fellow dudes, gents, and other assorted man-people, before you say “yeah, but,” stop and ask yourself why that’s the first thing to spring to mind. Are the allegations legitimately questionable, or are you layering some bias in there?

My fellow dudes, gents, and other assorted man-people, sometimes we need to just listen. Before you say “yeah, but,” wait a day. Wait two. Listen some more. See what other information comes forward. Listen some more. Ask yourself why saying “yeah, but” felt so essential. Listen some more.

My fellow dudes, gents, and other assorted man-people, before you say anything, say nothing.


copyright 2018 David Cornelius all rights reserved

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